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Most people dream of falling in love, having a romantic relationship, finding a soul mate, and building a relationship.
However, what if falling in love is your number one fear? Intrusive thoughts expressed as a conscious and unconscious fear of falling in love are called philophobia. Moreover, its essential characteristics could be:
- A person with philophobia can be a lonely melancholy or “soul of a company.”
- He or she does not want to have children or can father many children.
- He or she may have a beautiful body but is prone to obesity.
- He or she can have an intimate relationship or altogether refuse to have sex.
However, all people with philophobia have a trait, the inability and unwillingness to have a relationship of trust with the opposite sex.
At the same time, people who have philophobia are often unaware of their problem. They maintain the lifestyle that suits them. People with phagophobia build a world where they feel safe and comfortable.
In philophobia, the greater the barrier between the outside and inner worlds, the faster the fear will develop. It will be difficult for people with this condition to allow someone to enter their territory, open their souls, and share their feelings and thoughts.
As a result, a person with this syndrome feels unhappy constantly. Lacks emotional contact because communication with colleagues and friends does not generate satisfaction. All attempts to create a close relationship lead to short sexual relationships that cause the feeling of emptiness and lack of meaning in existence.
¿Qué causa la Filofobia?
An ideal image formed in childhood
The image of the father or the mother who is an example and the romantic histories of the noble men and the beautiful girls create excessive demands on the chosen one.
The formation of a negative attitude towards the opposite sex in childhood
Scandals, physical abuse, and infidelity lead to the development of fear of creating a family.
The first love and the broken heart
Adolescent romance is always very emotional, and any disappointment leaves a scar on the human psyche, sometimes affecting the rest of a person’s life.
Bad sexual experience
The couple’s violent, rude and cynical attitude can lead to an irresistible fear of new relationships in both men and women.
Divorce
People often stop dealing with the opposite sex, distance themselves, and blame themselves or their spouses.
Loss of a loved one
After death, the deficiencies are forgotten, and the image of a loved one becomes ideal.
There are no people who have not experienced any of these events but not all develop philophobia.
The fear of love occurs because of:
- An inferiority complex.
- The fear of losing independence
- Instability of the human psyche.
- The inability to take responsibility for one’s decisions and actions.
- Lack of willingness to worry about anyone.
Treatment
Close friends and family members notice changes in a person’s character and behavior:
- People try to spend their free time alone or prefer to be in a noisy society.
- He or she pays too much attention to his appearance or vice versa.
- He or she wants to have a family but does not take any action.
- The encounter with a potential partner ends with brief sexual contact.
- The character gets worse – irritability, nervousness, irascibility.
- Problems with sleep.
- To feel down.
If you are told that you have some of these symptoms mentioned above and have noticed unpleasant changes, it may be necessary to think about changes in your life. First, you need to understand and accept your hidden fears. You may be afraid of:
- Losing freedom and independence
- Be disappointed with the chosen one
- Get rid of habits.
- Losing a loved one
Many other fears do not allow you to have a permanent relationship.
The awareness of the problem is the first step to solving it. Good results are achieved with autogenous training to improve self-esteem and create an optimistic attitude towards the circumstances of life, expand the circle of communication and change the environment.
